The Good, the Bad, the Raw, and the Beauty

1). We must to be willing to let go of our 'big 'plans. Regardless of how large or small they may be, there is grace to be found in adapting, turning up the corners of your mouth and moving with the tides of change.

2). Find time once a day to stop what you're doing, look up at the sky, let the wind blow through your hair, the sunbeams warm your face. Don't have time? Make time. Your only certainty is right now.

3). Enjoy the journey. Don't wish it away. Even when you feel down in the dumps, done, fed up - most often the highest highs directly follow the lowest lows. Chin up, heart up, breathe in more deeply, let go.

4). Emotions can leave you feeling raw. Find the beauty in that. That you are able to feel so much - cover the entire spectrum of emotions in as short as one day - love, cry, feel, smile, laugh, hug, and use these as a reminder that you are alive. Be present as you experience the waves crashing in and around you. Love. Just love. It always comes back to love. 

5). Where there is love, there is no question.

And finally;

What Goes Up Must Come Down

It is how you deal with it when you're down that defines what happens next.

Life is a constant fluctuation of up, down, and in between. It just happens. 

But why is it that in the midst of some potentially self destructive behavior or decision we either cannot admit to ourselves that something is wrong or we choose to ignore it. 

We frame our lives in certain ways and our interpretations our intensely personal. We see things the way we want to see them. We don't want to admit to ourselves that something might be very, very wrong. That we might be very, very wrong. 

Friends and family will try to give advice and we still don't listen. Friends and family try to step in, and still nothing changes. There is that little voice inside that tells us they have no idea how it really is (a bit of a stretch - chances are you've been talking to them about it at least a little), they don't know what they are talking about (especially if they have age over you - they probably have valuable advice to offer because they have probably been there at some point in their lives), they are trying to ruin our lives (now come on..they love you, this is just not the case). In a time of fear, challenge, or turmoil, what we think becomes the only reality. The outsiders are wrong. This framework that we create in our minds may be very different than what outsiders see and it may be your reality, but what I have learned - that does not necessarily make it reality. This gets particularly complicated when it comes to matters of the heart or with life choices that we are very passionate about. The heart speaks so loudly at times that it drowns out the logic of the mind. 

(this has gotten me in trouble as I'm quite partial to following my heart)

Though it is grueling, in these times we need to remind ourselves that this interference (as we see it) is coming from a good place. It is coming from their hearts and we perceive it as interference, but remember - it is coming from their heart.

Ultimately it comes down to this - and it can be extremely difficult as the person in the middle of the situation or as the outsider watching it all go down: We have to make our decisions and our lives play out the way we think they should. You will keep living your life, maybe still going down the road that those who carry you so close to their hearts disagree with. We our going to live our lives as wee see fit. We will get beaten down, make terrible decisions, and disregard experience of those who have lived and learned longer than us. (try not to beat down the people who are trying to help you along the way as well - though the simple act of not heeding their advice might do just that) People will wonder 'why do they continue to do this when everyone tells them it is wrong?'

Why?

Having been on both sides of this phenomenon I have come to this conclusion:

Because it's our life - we have to make decisions - we have to make mistakes - we have to deal with the consequences - and we can learn from these challenges, we can learn from being down - we can decide how that is going to affect our lives - we can decide what to do with it once we are done. The times when we are down shape who we are far more than the times when we are at our best. 

And hopefully,

We become a little more mindful. We take full advantage of a chance to start fresh or rebuild. We learn to cope. We learn to love more ardently. We live more fiercely. We learn a greater respect for the guidance of others. We learn balance. We learn to respect the opinions and outlook of those who see differently than we do. 

We may damage ourselves or our closest relationships during this process. But we can turn around and rebuild them so the next time we are sturdier and more secure. The lessons we learned can help us endure the next blow that might come our way more gracefully. 

Be grounded in who you are. Move forward and continue living your life.

Embrace the ups, downs and in betweens and shine on beautiful people, because stars can't shine without darkness.

Bucket lists

I don't believe in them. Do you want to know why?

Because I feel that you should live every day like it is your last, love with every ounce of your being, and pursue your dreams. Never go to bed angry, always tell your family you love them when you leave or hang up the phone. Smile at strangers. Be open to new experiences. Do not shy away from difficulty and pain, allow yourself to learn from it.

And that thing...the thing that speaks to your soul and stokes a fire within you. THAT should be your daily focus. Because how can you feel anything but happy, fulfilled, and at peace with your life if each day you spread love and appreciation. 'If you love what you do then you will never work a day in your life.' 

Why are you doing something because society tells you that is how it should be? Why go to a job that you detest every morning because someone else has told you that is what is right? Why do they get to tell you what is right and what should be? This is your life, you get to decide that for yourself. (life isn't that simple you may say- so just start small)

You don't need a bucket list. You need to live every day as if it were your last. You need to listen to your intuition. You need to follow your dreams. Let your heart and soul speak for you and stop thinking so much. 

There is something that each of us is meant to do. That which makes us want to sing and dance at the end of each day. The thing that makes your eyes light up with wonder and joy. There is something that draws you towards it like a gravitational pull.

Should, supposed to, socially acceptable, correct, right, need to...you name it and people will say it. They will come along and tell you why you shouldn't do the thing that lights the fire within you because they may not understand it. 

But Howard Thurman said it best, 'Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.'

The people who do what makes them come alive are those who will change the world in the most magnificent way. They work with a passion that cannot be matched because that is where they are truly meant to be. When they do that thing, they radiate a contagious energy that makes people want to be near them, learn from them, and believe in them.

What makes you come alive? Make your way towards that. This world is not a perfect place and it is not always as easy as just giving up what you do that makes the money to help you live, and support your family and I understand that. But if you begin to manifest the change of which you seek, it will come to you. It may not be easy - there will be road blocks, hurdles, terrible jobs that you hate, people who tell you that you can't. Persist. This world needs you. It needs the light within you glowing so bright that it could blind the nearest passerby. Your heart is beating and you are breathing. You can make it through the difficult moments - they will not last forever. I repeat: the difficulty will pass, breathe through it, and the bliss which follows is inexplicably delicious. 

I challenge you to do something each day that makes you come alive.

Today I took in fresh air. I marveled at the autumn trees and the fiery tips of their leaves. I began my ninety minute yoga practice - but stopped after forty-five minutes - because, hey, I'm tired, why not. Today I told myself - I am going to travel across the country and see all the astonishing wonder it has to offer. I am going to continue teaching yoga. I am on my way to finding my place in this crazy, complicated, and confusing world. 

And that my friends, is a start.

Be gentle. Be kind. Live lightly. Breathe fully. Manifest your dreams. Then chase them.

Life's little treats- open up to them

Shall we begin with a little treat?

Click it, you know you want to. Close your eyes, tap your foot, sway side to side.

Oh my, this song. So delicious. Enjoy, and read on dear friend.

Yesterday (October 20, 2013...in the middle of FALL) I went for a run barefoot on the beach with wonderful company in only a sports bra and shorts. I played in the ocean at the end of October and didn't need a wetsuit. I soaked up some sweet Vitamin D, played frisbee and corn-hole with family, and I held the hand and looked into the eyes of the one I love. This tasty menu is a recipe for HAPPINESS. Nature, smiles, laughter, family, yoga, exercise, music (..and so on) can all access the vulnerability we may be feeling and help us build trust and movement towards opening ourselves up to a love we never even knew existed.

I feel refreshed and renewed with a clear mind and open heart. It's almost like there is an EASY button for my mind, body, and soul..except instead of office supplies appearing out of thin air I have a renewed clarity of mind to get work done more efficiently. I feel my sense of determination strengthened to continue challenging myself. I feel ready to charge ahead into the unknown.  All of this after three short days of sunshine and family.

I also feel an overwhelming desire to help others experience and accept the all encompassing love that I have found myself in at this stage of my life. Because you are worth it. You are worth all the love in the world.

What helps you feel centered, loved, supported?

Go do that right now (or this weekend). Don't have time? That's not an excuse, make time. How can you expect yourself to keep going if you don't let yourself do something you truly love every now and again. Slow down, close your eyes, and take a deep restorative breath.

I'm sure you have experienced at some point in your life music speaking to you at a deeper level than you anticipated. This song is almost like a miniature guided meditation for me and I invite you to follow along with it in that way. Allow yourself to feel any emotions that it may bring up if that is the case. When you close your eyes, let your mind paint pictures and take you to a brighter, simpler place.

 Follow the sun, the direction of the birds, the direction of love. Breathe in the air. Set your intentions. Dream with care. 

Particularly this line: 

Take a stroll to the nearest waters edge and remember your place. Many moons have risen and fallen here, long before you came. Oh my goodness what power those words hold. This is a gentle reminder that we are such small creatures in an extremely large framework. Whatever turmoil, stress or weight you are carrying with you..that too shall pass. Do not dwell on it. Acknowledge it then let it go. Infinite amounts of love can fill the space that you are wasting with negative thoughts or emotions. 

So..which way is the wind blowing? What does your heart say?