What Goes Up Must Come Down

It is how you deal with it when you're down that defines what happens next.

Life is a constant fluctuation of up, down, and in between. It just happens. 

But why is it that in the midst of some potentially self destructive behavior or decision we either cannot admit to ourselves that something is wrong or we choose to ignore it. 

We frame our lives in certain ways and our interpretations our intensely personal. We see things the way we want to see them. We don't want to admit to ourselves that something might be very, very wrong. That we might be very, very wrong. 

Friends and family will try to give advice and we still don't listen. Friends and family try to step in, and still nothing changes. There is that little voice inside that tells us they have no idea how it really is (a bit of a stretch - chances are you've been talking to them about it at least a little), they don't know what they are talking about (especially if they have age over you - they probably have valuable advice to offer because they have probably been there at some point in their lives), they are trying to ruin our lives (now come on..they love you, this is just not the case). In a time of fear, challenge, or turmoil, what we think becomes the only reality. The outsiders are wrong. This framework that we create in our minds may be very different than what outsiders see and it may be your reality, but what I have learned - that does not necessarily make it reality. This gets particularly complicated when it comes to matters of the heart or with life choices that we are very passionate about. The heart speaks so loudly at times that it drowns out the logic of the mind. 

(this has gotten me in trouble as I'm quite partial to following my heart)

Though it is grueling, in these times we need to remind ourselves that this interference (as we see it) is coming from a good place. It is coming from their hearts and we perceive it as interference, but remember - it is coming from their heart.

Ultimately it comes down to this - and it can be extremely difficult as the person in the middle of the situation or as the outsider watching it all go down: We have to make our decisions and our lives play out the way we think they should. You will keep living your life, maybe still going down the road that those who carry you so close to their hearts disagree with. We our going to live our lives as wee see fit. We will get beaten down, make terrible decisions, and disregard experience of those who have lived and learned longer than us. (try not to beat down the people who are trying to help you along the way as well - though the simple act of not heeding their advice might do just that) People will wonder 'why do they continue to do this when everyone tells them it is wrong?'

Why?

Having been on both sides of this phenomenon I have come to this conclusion:

Because it's our life - we have to make decisions - we have to make mistakes - we have to deal with the consequences - and we can learn from these challenges, we can learn from being down - we can decide how that is going to affect our lives - we can decide what to do with it once we are done. The times when we are down shape who we are far more than the times when we are at our best. 

And hopefully,

We become a little more mindful. We take full advantage of a chance to start fresh or rebuild. We learn to cope. We learn to love more ardently. We live more fiercely. We learn a greater respect for the guidance of others. We learn balance. We learn to respect the opinions and outlook of those who see differently than we do. 

We may damage ourselves or our closest relationships during this process. But we can turn around and rebuild them so the next time we are sturdier and more secure. The lessons we learned can help us endure the next blow that might come our way more gracefully. 

Be grounded in who you are. Move forward and continue living your life.

Embrace the ups, downs and in betweens and shine on beautiful people, because stars can't shine without darkness.

Social Media and Yoga

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This article is extremely well written and approaches a topic that I have contemplated thoughtfully on and off for some time. I have read many articles similar to this one, articles that support and highly discourage the posting of, for lack of a better description, yoga-selfies. I am certainly not someone who gets thousands of 'likes' and comments on Instagram when I post photos of the progress I am making in my own personal practice, nor do I honestly care how many 'likes' I receive - If just one person takes something away from a post, picture, or inspirational share then that day is a win for team share the love - that being said, I know not every person reacts positively to how I utilize social media. That's fine - don't like it? Stop looking - it is never my aim to negatively influence anyone and if that is your reaction it is entirely within your right to 'unfollow' or just scroll right past it and not give it a second thought. I put the intention of helping others out into the universe daily, and I would never want to discourage beginners from trying or finding yoga because they think it looks too difficult, don't appreciate my message, or tried something their body wasn't ready for and hurt themselves. 

I cannot speak for anyone else but from a personal standpoint the idea of how Instagram, Facebook, Twitter (social media in general) and the way yogis and teachers alike utilize it is multi-dimensional. 

1). Reiteration - Documenting progress.

For my present and future self.

I have been practicing for a few years and there is a certain importance to having a teacher walk you into a posture in person. There are mirrors in most yoga rooms so we might check our alignment, but I have found that the first, second, third, etc. time that I have a breakthrough - there is no way I'm looking up to try and see myself in a mirror. Nor do I really want to look at myself while I'm fighting with all my might to engage in the core, balance on my hands, twist further than I have ever twisted - add looking at a mirror and that's a recipe for a face plant. I know basic alignment for my body well enough to know that I can look after the fact, and make the proper adjustments the next time I integrate that posture into my practice. This helps me find ways to more clearly communicate to my students and safely incorporate it into my regular practice. I have felt what you are feeling, and finding that in my body will help me to help you.

2). I am trying to develop a stronger at-home practice. 

See #1.

3). I want to market myself as an instructor.

I am, you could say, brand spanking new to teaching. But I have never felt more joy and fulfillment than leaving the studio after helping students move through their physical, mental, spiritual journey or practice. Each teacher has their own unique style, and honestly I'm not entirely certain what mine would be defined as yet. You could say I'm still trying to find it, and you would probably be better served asking my students what their thoughts are on the matter. Just as my yoga practice is constantly developing, my style, strengths, and the way I influence others as a teacher are developing. Every last beautiful soul that walks into the room to take my class helps me along this journey. Their practice inspires my words when I feel lost for them in the middle of a practice. (See #1 - When I look at you, your body language, and your face I can remember that feeling of frustration in my body in that same pose. I also remember the thrill and rush of adrenaline when an adjustment opened up my understanding of how it should truly feel - I want you to feel that, and I want to see your face relax and the corners of your mouth turn up as you experience that revelation) How can I become a better teacher to you if nobody shows up though? You have to show up so I can truly help you show up fully. It seems cyclical to me - students and teachers constantly help one another along their own personal journey. 

4). Non-judgment

Nobody is completely judgement free, but in yoga we try to surpass the our ego to ultimately find enlightenment. We try to stop judging ourselves just as much as we try to stop judging others. We turn our attention inward and practice Svadhyaya - self-reflection. As much as I try to remind myself not to, I judge myself all the time. Everyone does. We look in the mirror, analyze the parts of our body that we hate, and think about what we want to fix. Stop doing that. Love yourself. My body may not be perfect, but I can look at the photo of myself in an arm balance and put those negative emotions aside - I can remind myself that I am strong, that I am capable of more than I know, and that with the right foundation I can do anything I set my mind to. I am still having difficulty balancing ego and non-judgement like most but there is an underlying positive message and good intention.

You are beautiful. You are strong. You can do anything you set your mind to with the right foundations (foundations - See #3).

 So I will not judge those yogis who can do handstands and post photos and videos of it to Instagram because I do not know their path or where they are in their life. I do not know what possibly emotional energy blockages in their body they had to surpass to finally get into that handstand. I don't know how that breakthrough has translated into the person they are in their daily life. Good on you for sticking to your practice. 

5). Old habits die hard

I have never been a particularly religious or spiritual person. Yes, yoga is more than asanas, postures, physical practice. It is much, much more than that. But I have been a competitive athlete my entire life. Swimming, while it is scored as a team sport, is ultimately intensely individual. The individual is challenged to better themselves to work within the larger framework of the team and from years of staring at a black line for three hours pushing myself to my limit, I am conditioned to challenged myself. I have finally reached a place where I am past frustration with limitations and the inability to attain difficult postures. I acknowledge that in order to reach goals within the physical practice of yoga I needed to return to basics and build a stronger base. This lightbulb went off when I focused on my home practice, then returned to the difficult postures after committing to 90 minutes of warming my body and shaking off the worries and stress of the day. Stronger roots in the basics allows me to then attempt to chase aspirations that exist within me. It is my practice, my mat, and my body. 
It should be noted: the desire to strengthen my at-home practice was inspired by these very social media yoga goddesses who are being evaluated for flaunting their abilities. I am innately constantly competitive with myself, they inspired me, and yoga is helping me tame that (aspect of my ego). It started with the physical practice..does it still lie with the physical practice? Maybe. But that's my issue to deal with .

Perhaps it is naive to assume that people will take the necessary steps in being safe in their own bodies - personal exercise regimen, yoga practice, self-study, whatever it may be. We are the only ones who are responsible for our own health and happiness. I am sure there are people out there who think they can and should tackle challenging postures when they see them on 'Instafamous' yogis social media pages. Maybe they will have a slightly bruised ego when they come to find they do not have the necessary framework for that. If envious, perhaps they are not ready to deepen their practice. Or perhaps that is exactly what will bring them to the place where they find one of the qualities that they want to rid themselves of because it no longer serves them. 
At some point in each persons practice, they find themselves comparing their progress to that of others. This stirs up emotions, and how we confront those emotions helps shape who we are. I do not know the reasons people make certain decisions or engage in certain behaviors but I do know there is a common sense to safety and accountability for one's own body. And who am I to stand in the way of what might be the beginning of a persons journey.

Rarely do people know what they are in for when they start practicing yoga. Rarely do people begin yoga with the intention of following a path to enlightenment. Rarely do people realize when they take their first yoga class that they are beginning a journey and potentially changing their life. 
Yoga doesn't start as a journey for most, it develops into one. How they get to the starting line is up to them. We could all benefit from being a bit more mindful. Just remember, someone else's journey is not yours to judge and someones reaction to your journey is about them, it is not about you. So don't take it personally. Live your life. Above all, hold yourself accountable for your body and your actions. 

Lokah samasta sukhino bhavantu

May all beings everywhere be happy and free and may the thoughts, words, and actions of my own life contribute in some way to that happiness and that freedom for all.

What distracts you during your practice?

I'm truly interested. What distracts you during your practice?

Every day we run around in our fast-paced society - from place to place, responsibility to obligation, taking care of things for others - often times neglecting adequate care of ourselves. How can you continue to operate this way unless you stop the cycle and take a few moments for yourself? So you go to yoga, brilliant. You have taken the first, and often the hardest step by getting into the car, driving to the studio, and laying down your mat.

If you aren't taking the time each day to step away from the exhausting cycle that is eat, sleep, work, repeat -
Take a moment to tell yourself:
Self-care is not an option, it is a requirement. You have an obligation to care for yourself - mind, body, and soul.

So you made it to the studio, then what happens? You find a comfy Savasana, attempt to shut the mind off, and prepare for the physical practice. The breath begins to help you draw attention towards parts of your body that may not have received much love or attention during your busy day. You had a headache, but why? Then you take notice of the tension you are feeling in your neck - after all, you do carry a 10 pound head around on that neck all day, it is no wonder it is feeling a bit tired. You roll over and press back into child's pose, turn your head to the side, extend the arms palms facing up by the hips, and let that weight melt into the ground. 

The knot between your shoulders from crouching over the computer all day. 
The pressure and throbbing in the feet from standing for eight hours at work. 
You send the breath there. By doing this, you are already providing the gift of fresh, healing, restorative energy to otherwise neglected areas of your body.

The moving meditation begins. The fire you stoked within through the breath begins to spread through the limbs, helps you feel into the body. The legs burn, the arms feel tired, the core might collapse.
 Inhale to lengthen - exhale to surrender. Inhale to make space - exhale to soften the face and the gaze.
The initial tension passes and the beautiful dance between breath and movement keeps you flowing. The heat moves through the skin and trickles down your face in the form of sweat. Do you wipe it away? Or do you simply acknowledge it and continue flowing? Something might be coming up - you are furious that your teacher has kept you in Warrior II for this long. Your front leg quivers - you want to straighten it - you don't want to be there anymore.

Let whatever it is come up. Acknowledge it. Move past it. Find the breath.
It's just yoga.

You come to the balancing series and you are wobbling. The arches of your feet are tired. You are holding your breath, furrowing the brow, tensing the face. The frustration builds on itself. You look to your right and there is that flawless yogi (you know the one) - with the calm smile on their face, not even sweating, perfect alignment, not a care in the world - you find this annoying. You begin to wonder how long they have been practicing yoga..why you don't look how they look in a certain posture..you fall over.

Draw your attention inward. Everyone is at a different place in their own journey. You're at yoga for you, not for them. Do yourself a favor - allow the time you take away from your daily cycle to be just for you. There is nothing wrong with being a little selfish every once in a while.

The practice comes to a close and you find yourself in Savasana again, but this Savasana feels much different than the first. This juicy, delicious surrender is where moving meditation reaches mental stillness. The place you long for in the midst of the burn. Your mind will want to gravitate towards whatever is coming next. Let yourself find calm and deep silence in your mind and body in the present moment. 

What distracts you?
Whatever it may be, don't disregard that feeling, emotion, or sensation. Let it be there for a moment. Tell it that you see it there -and if it does not serve you simply let it go.

Even that seemingly perfect yogi..is not perfect.

Allowing yourself to acknowledge whatever comes up and move past it on your mat will help you do the same in your daily life. The angry driver on your daily commute - might make you laugh instead of honk. Others perception of you - may not matter anymore. When life is turned upside down - you may find it is easier to embrace the difficulty that often shows up in times of change.


When it gets hard?
Return to the breath. Return to a meaningful mantra. Return to your intention. Smile.
It's just life.

Bucket lists

I don't believe in them. Do you want to know why?

Because I feel that you should live every day like it is your last, love with every ounce of your being, and pursue your dreams. Never go to bed angry, always tell your family you love them when you leave or hang up the phone. Smile at strangers. Be open to new experiences. Do not shy away from difficulty and pain, allow yourself to learn from it.

And that thing...the thing that speaks to your soul and stokes a fire within you. THAT should be your daily focus. Because how can you feel anything but happy, fulfilled, and at peace with your life if each day you spread love and appreciation. 'If you love what you do then you will never work a day in your life.' 

Why are you doing something because society tells you that is how it should be? Why go to a job that you detest every morning because someone else has told you that is what is right? Why do they get to tell you what is right and what should be? This is your life, you get to decide that for yourself. (life isn't that simple you may say- so just start small)

You don't need a bucket list. You need to live every day as if it were your last. You need to listen to your intuition. You need to follow your dreams. Let your heart and soul speak for you and stop thinking so much. 

There is something that each of us is meant to do. That which makes us want to sing and dance at the end of each day. The thing that makes your eyes light up with wonder and joy. There is something that draws you towards it like a gravitational pull.

Should, supposed to, socially acceptable, correct, right, need to...you name it and people will say it. They will come along and tell you why you shouldn't do the thing that lights the fire within you because they may not understand it. 

But Howard Thurman said it best, 'Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.'

The people who do what makes them come alive are those who will change the world in the most magnificent way. They work with a passion that cannot be matched because that is where they are truly meant to be. When they do that thing, they radiate a contagious energy that makes people want to be near them, learn from them, and believe in them.

What makes you come alive? Make your way towards that. This world is not a perfect place and it is not always as easy as just giving up what you do that makes the money to help you live, and support your family and I understand that. But if you begin to manifest the change of which you seek, it will come to you. It may not be easy - there will be road blocks, hurdles, terrible jobs that you hate, people who tell you that you can't. Persist. This world needs you. It needs the light within you glowing so bright that it could blind the nearest passerby. Your heart is beating and you are breathing. You can make it through the difficult moments - they will not last forever. I repeat: the difficulty will pass, breathe through it, and the bliss which follows is inexplicably delicious. 

I challenge you to do something each day that makes you come alive.

Today I took in fresh air. I marveled at the autumn trees and the fiery tips of their leaves. I began my ninety minute yoga practice - but stopped after forty-five minutes - because, hey, I'm tired, why not. Today I told myself - I am going to travel across the country and see all the astonishing wonder it has to offer. I am going to continue teaching yoga. I am on my way to finding my place in this crazy, complicated, and confusing world. 

And that my friends, is a start.

Be gentle. Be kind. Live lightly. Breathe fully. Manifest your dreams. Then chase them.

On and Off the Mat

Lokah samasta sukhino bhavantu

'May all beings everywhere be happy and free and may the thoughts, words and actions of my own life contribute in some way to that happiness and to that freedom for all'

Connecting with students is one of the most exciting parts of my recent journey into the world of teaching. I invested in teacher training not only to expand my knowledge and grow as a person, but to spread this thing that I happened to stumble upon at exactly the right moment in my life. I wanted to spread this to others that were open to it so that I may help them in some way. 

I realized shortly after I began teaching that I was more nervous of the idea of communicating to a new group of people that I had never met before than I was of actually teaching. 'What if I don't say the right thing?' 'What if people know I'm new and hate my class?' 'What if people don't come to my class?' All of these silly questions were doing me no good. I had to reassess - find faith in the fact that I know what I'm doing and can safely lead students through their practice. It became clear that doing an hour or 90 minute home practice before traveling to the studio to teach helped me feel lighter and more capable of finding my words. I know I understand basic alignment, movement and how a very small adjustments can help you feel into your body differently. I feel giddy when a subtle cue helps someone relax in their face and find a greater degree of ease in their asana. I also know that I have so much more to learn - and that there is so much more experience to be had. I am eager and excited to strengthen my knowledge base and learn from others who have valuable knowledge to give. I am discovering that the relationship between the study of anatomy, watching students alignment and body language throughout class, and expansion of my own personal practice are all equally meaningful to my development as a person on and off the mat and as a teacher. 

Since I have begun teaching my own personal practice has taken off, and as my practice takes off I feel more confident teaching. This delightful cyclical relationship has enlightened me to the certain level of fear I needed to confront before my body would allow me to enter certain postures or express myself more clearly through my cues, speech, words and writing. 
When people ask you if you are a swimmer in department stores because 'they noticed your strong shoulders', you begin to wonder WHY, oh why can I not get into an arm balance? Perhaps it is of fear that I might face plant..? Perhaps I don't have enough core strength..? Perhaps there are subtle energies in my body that aren't aligned properly and other postures need a little more love first..? There are any number of explanations why your body might not be ready to approach something difficult. Perhaps I am over-thinking it and they will come when the time is right. Frustration disappeared with this recognition and eagerness and delight for what will come next replaced it. Just a few days later, I found myself in an arm balance that I had been struggling for months to get into. A week later, a second difficult arm balance found its way into my practice.

Was I jumping up and down with elation in my room alone after this happened? Yes, yes I was.
Yoga provides so many benefits it is hard to list them all. Each and every persons list will be different, depending on where they are in their life, what they are seeking, and what they feel they get out of it from their own personal standpoint. 

When was the last time you asked yourself these important questions:

Why do you love yoga? 
Why do you keep going back to your mat? 
What does yoga do for you? 
Has yoga changed your life? 
What is your favorite posture - the one that you can't wait to get into every practice - the one that makes you feel empowered, strong, invincible, comfortable, happy? What makes you love it so much?
What is your very least favorite posture - maybe it is even the one that has made you burst into tears out of frustration? Why is it so difficult for you? What would happen if you embraced that discomfort - surrendered to it instead of fighting it?
How might what you do on your mat translate into your daily life?


Breathe. Live lightly. Appreciate what you have. 

What are we capable of?

How do you know unless you challenge yourself?

How can you challenge yourself if you don't believe in yourself?

How do you begin to establish a firm and unwavering confidence in the person you are and what you are capable of?

How can you open your heart to life, love, and others if you have no faith in yourself?

Begin somewhere. Self talk and visualization. Tell yourself. Love. Then surround yourself with others who believe it too.

For example:

Do this for a week:

I am amazing. I can do anything. I will be positive. My individuality is beautiful. I will succeed. I can do ANYTHING I set my mind to. 

I am here to tell you that you can do anything you set your mind to. 

The more times you tell yourself, the more it will become second nature, and then it will spread like wildfire to others.

Yesterday, October 27th, myself and three (or seven if you count cousins of the family I am marrying into) other family members ran in the Marine Corps Marathon. As I write this I can't help but be overwhelmed with how awesome my entire immediate and extended family are. My brother has done four Ironman competitions and I have all the faith in the world he will qualify for the Kona World Championships in the next one he races. My sister has more strength in determination than any other person I have met in my life. My fiance is calm in the midst of a storm, tackling anything with steadiness and certainty. 

My sister Jackie, while I love her dearly and with my whole heart, was sorely under prepared to run a marathon. Did this matter? Absolutely not. There was little thought put into pre-race food or sustenance during the race for day of, and she clocked minimal miles in the months leading up to it. Was this a problem? Absolutely not. She decided she was going to run the marathon yesterday, beat the bridge, and finish and there wasn't a single doubt in my mind that it wouldn't happen. "It's 85% mental," she says. So she ran, beat the bridge and finished, and my heart swelled with pride as she ran up the final hill. 

"If you are losing faith in humanity, go out and watch a marathon" - Kathrine Switzer

No truer words. 

Both racing and spectating provide renewal and excitement about the good that can be spread through love, support, determination, and confidence in oneself.. Do I love running 26.2 miles? No. No I do not. But there is no other feeling like realizing that you are capable of more than you know. 

I traveled to Idaho and watched my brother Danny swim 2.4 miles, transition into a 112 mile bike then finish with a marathon. We ate, celebrated a job well done, and returned to the finish line to watch the last of the competitors make their way across the finish line. I have never in my life been so moved. The people who cross the finish line at midnight have been swimming, biking, and running for 17 hours. Can you even fathom that? Honestly. Stop and think about it for a moment...that is three times longer than most people sleep at night. There is so much determination, willpower and spirit in these peoples hearts and minds that they continue moving forward even though their bodies are clearly shutting down and trying to stop them. 17 hours. Strangers stand along the sidelines, pounding their fists, cheering, screaming, singing, dancing, doing anything and everything in their power to help a person whom they have never met make it that final treacherous mile.

When my own body felt like it was going to give out from under me yesterday, as difficult as it was (and it was not pretty) I found the presence of mind and ability to push myself a little harder, knowing that any pain I was feeling would pass and because there is truth and conviction in this:

If marines who have lost their legs can race 26.2 miles with their arms in a wheelchair..

If the 70-year-old man limping in a knee brace can cross the finish with arms pumping in the air..

If people who have lost the ones they love to war and violence can race in memory of them..

If people who have beaten cancer can turn around and finish a 26.2 mile race or an Ironman...

then I can undoubtedly do it too.

I am amazing. I can do anything. I will be positive. My individuality is beautiful. I will succeed. I can do ANYTHING I set my mind to. 

I invite you to challenge yourself today, this week, this month, this year. Step outside of your comfort zone and approach the unknown or something you are fearful of. It will help you grow. It will help you love. It will help you become who you are really meant to be. In a time when news shows us primarily corruption, political attacks, violence, war, death, and destruction-it might even restore some of your faith in humanity.

There is good, love, and wonder everywhere. Look around. Open your eyes to it. Begin small. Start with yourself. Then magnify it outward.

Life's little treats- open up to them

Shall we begin with a little treat?

Click it, you know you want to. Close your eyes, tap your foot, sway side to side.

Oh my, this song. So delicious. Enjoy, and read on dear friend.

Yesterday (October 20, 2013...in the middle of FALL) I went for a run barefoot on the beach with wonderful company in only a sports bra and shorts. I played in the ocean at the end of October and didn't need a wetsuit. I soaked up some sweet Vitamin D, played frisbee and corn-hole with family, and I held the hand and looked into the eyes of the one I love. This tasty menu is a recipe for HAPPINESS. Nature, smiles, laughter, family, yoga, exercise, music (..and so on) can all access the vulnerability we may be feeling and help us build trust and movement towards opening ourselves up to a love we never even knew existed.

I feel refreshed and renewed with a clear mind and open heart. It's almost like there is an EASY button for my mind, body, and soul..except instead of office supplies appearing out of thin air I have a renewed clarity of mind to get work done more efficiently. I feel my sense of determination strengthened to continue challenging myself. I feel ready to charge ahead into the unknown.  All of this after three short days of sunshine and family.

I also feel an overwhelming desire to help others experience and accept the all encompassing love that I have found myself in at this stage of my life. Because you are worth it. You are worth all the love in the world.

What helps you feel centered, loved, supported?

Go do that right now (or this weekend). Don't have time? That's not an excuse, make time. How can you expect yourself to keep going if you don't let yourself do something you truly love every now and again. Slow down, close your eyes, and take a deep restorative breath.

I'm sure you have experienced at some point in your life music speaking to you at a deeper level than you anticipated. This song is almost like a miniature guided meditation for me and I invite you to follow along with it in that way. Allow yourself to feel any emotions that it may bring up if that is the case. When you close your eyes, let your mind paint pictures and take you to a brighter, simpler place.

 Follow the sun, the direction of the birds, the direction of love. Breathe in the air. Set your intentions. Dream with care. 

Particularly this line: 

Take a stroll to the nearest waters edge and remember your place. Many moons have risen and fallen here, long before you came. Oh my goodness what power those words hold. This is a gentle reminder that we are such small creatures in an extremely large framework. Whatever turmoil, stress or weight you are carrying with you..that too shall pass. Do not dwell on it. Acknowledge it then let it go. Infinite amounts of love can fill the space that you are wasting with negative thoughts or emotions. 

So..which way is the wind blowing? What does your heart say?

'If we only show up when things are easy, we are not showing up fully'

Let's broach the topic of:

When things don't go your way

(in other words)

When something happens that forces you to pay closer attention, be present, or show up more fully

We are creatures of habit. Face it, you probably have the same routine every day from when you wake up in the morning to when you release the weight of your body into your bed at the end of the evening. Of course there will be a few subtle variations here and there. I'm sure it looks something like..get up, walk the dog, feed the dog, brush your teeth, shower, get dressed, eat breakfast or grab something for the road, then drive the exact same route to work or class as we do every other day..you get the point. 

Stop to think about this for a moment. 

It is easy to get caught up in the blur that becomes our daily life. Conditioned routines and behaviors mean less mental stimulation and we are taken to this place where 'time flies', with an overload of information and tasks and it is very difficult to be fully present. Consider this: If you took a different series of streets to work each day, you may not be as comfortable texting while you're driving. Some of the daily familiarity with timing of stoplights and traffic is removed. You are forced to pay closer attention to what is going on and maybe think twice before pulling out your phone.

It is in these moments of surprise, change, difference--when things don't go your way--there is endless potential for the most beautiful space for presence of mind. Opening yourself up to something new can have a profound impact on your day, week, or even life.

Just a few days ago it was raining. I generally ride my bike to class so naturally I was annoyed when I looked out the window. I was not particularly interested in being pelted in the face by raindrops then sitting through class in soaking wet pants and frizzy hair. I quickly realized I had plenty of time to make it to class and decided to walk instead. Generally speaking, a straight week of rain will has an intensely negative impact on my mood (extended periods of cloudy darkness and no sunshine to give me that sweet, sweet Vitamin D leads to a rather sad and emotional state. This is also why I have always had an aversion to Winter) Nope, not this time. I was so blissfully happy walking in the rain you would have thought that sunbeams were showering me with warmth. I wanted to hug every person I walked by. 

But what was different? It was still cloudy, I hadn't seen the sun in at least a week, and surely hadn't been getting nearly enough sleep while fighting off a cold.

Instead of being miserable and doing what I always did, I let myself slow down, leave a little earlier, and make space for the beauty and renewal that rain brings on a crisp fall day. The gentle and soothing sound of raindrops hitting leaves and the top of my umbrella, the splash each puddle made as I walked directly through it, following my impulse to stop at a favorite coffee shop for lemongrass tea..it all made me feel centered, at peace, and wholeheartedly present to all of my surroundings and how I felt in each moment. The thirty minute walk from my apartment changed my perspective of the day completely. Dreariness and annoyance with the circumstances took a running leap towards appreciation and gratitude.

So next time something (perhaps unexpected) 'happens'..whether it rains , you forget your computer..and therefore have to take handwritten notes instead of typing, a road is closed on your regular route somewhere, or it starts to rain after a perfectly sunny day when you decided to spend the money to get your car washed..

Set your initial reaction aside momentarily and open up some space inside. 

You may find that there is something eye opening or wonderful on the other side.

Breathe. Be present. Love with your whole heart.

(in other words...and pardon the profanity)

Listen to your body, or it will force you to

It sounds so simple and yet many people don't even think twice about it. That includes myself..as I sit here with a virus that is forcing me to 'take it easy', my fiance is trying to convince me not to run the half marathon I already registered and paid for tomorrow. Excuse me but no way in hell will I waste the $75 I paid for a bib, t-shirt and excuse to go visit my beautiful sister in Charlotte, NC. 

It took me two weeks of feeling relatively awful before I actually even went to the doctor to make sure nothing was seriously wrong. Exhausted with a sore throat and swollen lymph nodes the most energy I exerted all day today was leaving the house for lunch. 

As I have begun teaching, I have realized that I have experienced few things more fulfilling than guided a group of people through their practice. I leave the studio after teaching a class with a greater yoga high than I have ever felt from my own personal practice. I feel so light, overflowing with love and gratitude that I may actually levitate. While the experience has been life changing and exhilarating, it has also challenged me and led me to many eye opening conclusions about myself. 

Fact: While it is important to challenge yourself, it is more important to surround yourself with love and support. If someone is subtracting from the confidence you have in yourself, whether that be the direction in which you have chosen to take your life or a general lack of support-you do not need to be around them. If they truly love you they will believe in your dreams. Listen to your heart. 'Set your life on fire' then allow those who gravitate towards support in the direction of your dreams to be the ones you hold most dear.

Let yourself slow down. Meditate on this: Your body sends you subtle messages all the time. You know what is best for yourself but people rarely let go of their ego long enough to suppress the little voice inside that guides us. Your knee hurts? Maybe you shouldn't go for that 10 mile run today. Have a headache? Perhaps you shouldn't stare at your computer screen for three hours tonight. Exhausted because you have only slept four hours per night the last week? Turn off the television, phone, computer and other stimulating devices, read a book instead and let yourself rest. Are you guilty of this? Because I certainly am. What with the changing season, midterms at school, training for running races, and whatever else it is going on in life it is easy to miss the subtle signs. They get pushed aside until BAM, you are sick for two weeks, and illness or injury occur. Your body says, 'not going to listen to me? Fine! Take THAT!' 

I like to think that I have gotten better at listening to my body. When I feel like going for a run, I do. If my feet hurt, I put down my mat and have 60-90 minutes of yoga. If the thought of doing either of these things stresses me out at all, I go for a long walk. Due in large part to swimming my entire life I feel that I grew up with much more body awareness than the average person (thanks mom and dad). But I also have highly competitive siblings from whom I learned that you cannot reach your athletic goals unless you push yourself past your comfort zone (thanks Danny and Jackie). 

There is a happy medium here folks. Care for yourself because nobody else will. Take time to reconnect with your body or it will force you to. Love yourself, or you'll end up like me..two weeks into a virus still feeling tired with a sore throat sitting inside all day because my body said 'enough is enough'. 

I hear you body..message received.

Will I be running that half marathon tomorrow you ask..? We'll see how I feel in the morning ;)

What helps you feel grounded?

MindBodyGreen: signs-your-grounding-chakra-is-out-of-whack-what-to-do-about-it

This got me thinking..

Funny! Yoga teachers (myself included) use visualizations referencing trees when trying to help students become more grounded in class. Being grounded is remarkably important in your life and on your mat and can be extremely difficult to access at times. Have you ever been well into a yoga practice and get to a balancing sequence to find that you cannot for the life of you stay balanced (cue frustration, cursing under your breath, rolling eyes, looking at others)?

The arch nemesis of your first chakra is FEAR, so it makes sense that anxiety, stress, restlessness, worry, and exhaustion are directly associated with a faulty first chakra. It's easy once we taste that fear to get stuck in the vicious cycle that can take you to emotional, inconsistent and unreliable places. 

Fun facts about the first chakra (courtesy of Shannon Harty):

(the colors of the chakras are the same as those of the rainbow from bottom to top!) so...

Color: Red

Sense: Smell

Location: Base of the Spine

Element: Earth

Animal: Elephant

Physical dysfunctions associated with the first chakra:

Chronic back pain

Sciatica

Varicose veins

Cancer

Depression

Immune related disorders

The first chakra is the energy center where you find connection to the Earth, things greater than yourself, friends, family, and where your sense of home is. If you are experiencing some kind of turmoil, or your world has been turned upside down, it's quite possible that will translate into your yoga practice and largely the way you relate to others. Finding your connection with family and the unit of support physically and emotionally can help you open yourself up to a world of possibilities you didn't know existed. It is much easier to balance on one leg, your big toes, or the top of your head if you are wholeheartedly confident that you are loved, supported, and connected to the Earth and your friends and family.

I've been in a place where I felt I was missing my 'tribe'. I made some not so advisable decisions and in turn had very little communication with my family for many months. I literally did not speak to the people who love me most in this world for months. I wondered when I practiced yoga during this time if I was ever going to find stability in my balancing postures. I swayed at the very thought of closing my eyes in Tadasana, as if the ground would literally drop from beneath me if I let my guard down for a single moment. I had constant back pain, migraines, sleepless nights, bouts of depression, and very upsetting thoughts about myself (I was a hot mess). My father was diagnosed with cancer during that time and that shook the ground beneath my feet even further. Every bone in my body told me 'enough' and I forced myself to take a step. ONE step is all it takes to start to find lightness and connection again. I am not a tree..I moved, I changed where I was in my life and through those changes I began to heal and find what I was missing. 

Experiencing any of these physical dysfunctions? What to do, what to do..?

Go for a walk..or run..a skip..go to a park..just go outside. Leave your phone in your house while you're at it. Let yourself disconnect from whatever text you are waiting to receive, phone call you feel you need to make, or email you need to check. There is unending beauty surrounding you at every turn. Just allow yourself to acknowledge that beauty and let it surround your mind, body, and soul. Breathe it in. Breathe it all in. Breathe in all of the fresh air and new energy that you possibly can. Exhale out the negative thoughts, frustration, and worry. Nature, love, and gratitude can be humbling, and it can bring you back from very dark places. Opening yourself to these things can help you feel grounded and supported. Think very hard, find at least one thing that makes you feel calm, supported, truly loved and build from there.

And/Or...

I challenge you someday soon to do a short yoga practice (maybe a few sun salutations to connect movement with breath and warm up your body..and throw a few balancing postures in there). Then stop. Take a break..and roll the arches of your feet out on a tennis ball. Then use your hands, press into all corners of your feet with your thumbs and really give your feet a little love. Return to your mat and do the same practice again and focus in on the changes. You will FEEL the difference physically, but you can find that same connection without the physical stimulation. Standing tall and proud in Tadasana close your eyes. Imagine you are a tree and roots are growing from your feet deep into the Earth.  Growing, extending, spreading out these roots build in strength and size until you are firmly planted in the ground. You are one with nature. One with the world around you.

Family, tribe, clan, kinship..whatever you want to call it you need it and it is the most important thing in your life. Cherish your friends and family because everything else is built upon that and nothing matters without it. The chakras begin at the base of the spine extending down through your legs and into your feet. Energy flow begins in your physical body with grounding. 

Studying yoga and my journey through teacher training has helped me come to terms with the struggle I had with myself. I have never felt more supported and loved in my life and that begins with the love and appreciation I have for myself and others. 

Find your stillness, security, and stability. 

You have everything you need, use it to find your greater connection.

Breathe. Love. Breathe again.

What helps you feel grounded? Go get more of it!